"Nothing wrong with it, but I'd want more for my daughter"

Recently, I read some thoughts from a woman who noted that her teenage neice hung out with a girl (Let's call her "Alice") who comes from what appears, on the outside, to be a decent family. Alice's father is a minister and her mother is a stay at home mom. The family spends time together on family outings. Alice informed this woman that her idol is a woman named Kendal from "The Girls Next Door". Apparently, "The Girls Next Door" is a television show about playboy founder Hugh Hefner and his girlfriends. Alice wants to be one of Hefner's girlfriends. Since she he is not allowed to watch the show at home she watches it at her friends' houses. The woman writing these thoughts commented, "Is there anything wrong with being a playmate? Not really. But I would hope my daughter would want to be more than a pretty face and that she would not want to be one of three girlfriends." Really? Is that what this woman really thinks?
Even though the family spends time together, Alice appears to have her eyes on removing herself from what she considers to be moral restraints. This would lead me to conclude that just because a father is a minister doesn't mean that everything is done in a proper and prioritized manner at home. Having been in vocational ministry for over a decade, I have seen far too many ministry families where the father is just as absent as any other family, and the children feel just as neglected as someone whose dad might be a doctor, an attorney or flat out not there at all. Inevitably, young women, if not getting a positive connection and affection from their dad at home, will turn to other avenues to receive attention. In this case, Alice would seem to believe that the attention and affection she would receive by exposing her body and being sexually promiscuous will fill the void created by a lack of affection from home. Sadly, she’s not alone. There are thousands of young women who would jump at the chance that Alice is desiring. Folks, we have sown to the wind, and we are reaping the whirlwind.
Now, regarding her statement that, "there isn’t anything wrong” with being a playmate, yet she hopes her daughter would be more than a pretty face or the third part of a polygamous relationship, her use of the word “more” would indicate that she believes being a pretty face and one of three girlfriends is less, or something to be looked down upon. Yet if she doesn't see anything wrong with it, why would she look down upon it and not want it for her daughter? Do you see the mess that relative morality is making in people's ability to think reasonably?
I have three daughters and I can unequivocally say that I would find it extremely wrong and flat out unacceptable for them to put themselves in such a degrading and disreputable position. Brothers and sisters in Christ, it’s perfectly okay to say that there are absolute rights and absolute wrongs, especially when it comes to our children. As a parent, I have a duty and obligation to protect my children from being exposed to things that are morally objectionable, and more importantly, to train them as they become young men and women to discern biblically what is right and wrong, regardless of what politically correct advocates say about values. Moral relativism, taken to its logical conclusion, will lead to chaos at best and anarchy at worst, but even worse than that, a plethora of individual broken hearted men and women, like the young woman "Alice" from the home of a minister.
Now, regarding her statement that, "there isn’t anything wrong” with being a playmate, yet she hopes her daughter would be more than a pretty face or the third part of a polygamous relationship, her use of the word “more” would indicate that she believes being a pretty face and one of three girlfriends is less, or something to be looked down upon. Yet if she doesn't see anything wrong with it, why would she look down upon it and not want it for her daughter? Do you see the mess that relative morality is making in people's ability to think reasonably?
I have three daughters and I can unequivocally say that I would find it extremely wrong and flat out unacceptable for them to put themselves in such a degrading and disreputable position. Brothers and sisters in Christ, it’s perfectly okay to say that there are absolute rights and absolute wrongs, especially when it comes to our children. As a parent, I have a duty and obligation to protect my children from being exposed to things that are morally objectionable, and more importantly, to train them as they become young men and women to discern biblically what is right and wrong, regardless of what politically correct advocates say about values. Moral relativism, taken to its logical conclusion, will lead to chaos at best and anarchy at worst, but even worse than that, a plethora of individual broken hearted men and women, like the young woman "Alice" from the home of a minister.

3 Comments:
I wish more father's felt that way about their daughters as you expressed.
If that were the case, there would probably a big change among young women
today. In the past, I must say I could relate to the need for male
attention. After talking with more mature females about it, as well as
reading about it, I related it to the absence of a father. It is amazing
what a difference the absence or presence of a father can make.
This topic is a very interesting in light of a comment made by one of the judges on a hit FAMILY show called "Dancing with the Stars".
For those who might not know: "Dancing with the Stars" is touted as a family oriented ABC program to which celebrities are paired with a professional dancer and it is a dance competition.
Last week, the youngst pair of dancers, early twenties, who are touted as the "wholesome ones" did a nasty gyrating "latin" dance which per the camera angle and hip movement looked..... ----well you get my point. It was not even really considered to be dancing in my opinion, as they were just standing there. It was disgusting!!!!
Apparently, the "latin" dances are supposed to be sexy, so two of the judges were applauding this couple and voted them the highest score available. The final judge, however, was actually a former latin dance champion and his quote was.... "The dance was too raunchy". He was immediately booed and profusely criticized.
Sadly, this judge didn't back up his comment and only deducted one tiny point away from their score.
The comments endured to the next day, that this judge was completely wrong and no one else thought the dance was as obscene as it was. In fact, there were many jokes made at this man's expense.
It is sad that today's "ART" has gotten to be so overtly nasty that people, especially the young, don't recognize it's devaluing effect on their morals.
Although it is down to the final couple of weeks and I really want to know who will win; that particular program has gotten the official "off" button in my home. It would be hypocritical to believe in or teach morals while allowing such smut in my home.
Amen brother, preach it. My daughters used to watch Diff'rent Strokes, nice wholesome show, white dad and daughter, two adopted black sons. After watching the show with them over a period of time I noticed a recurring theme. One of the kids would do something wrong, lie, cheat, steal and go to hilarious lengths to hide it or fix it without getting caught, whatever. At the end of the show, when they had been found out, the dad apologized to them for his action that caused them to misbehave. At that point I decided that my girls would not watch that show anymore. Moral relativity, the kids were justified in their actions because of what dad did, justified by dad nonetheless. Josh McDowell pointed out recently a truth, "truth" is under attack. The current generation is being taught that truth is relative, subjective and individual. It is no longer objective. The Bible is true. How do we know, historical, scientific, archeological evidence, first hand reports of multiple witnesses with enough similarity and enough unique detail differences to verify the truth of the reports. A story thousands of years long written by a multitude of authors with internal consistency. Ask a kid today if the Bible is true, if he says yes, his support is "because I believe it". Todays mantra is, "that may be your truth but it is not my truth". Kids today are taught that truth is personal, you decide what is true and what is not. Facts are irrevelant. If you want to change opinions capture the language and redefine it. Abortion/prochoice, homosexual partner/significant other/life partner/married couple, objective truth/relative subjective truth. Kevin Leman says that women are products of their fathers and men are products of their mothers. There is great truth in that.
I am attending the "Truth Project" this weekend. I expect to get a glimpse of how deep and broad the "truth" really is, I can't wait.
In Christ's love,
Joe
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